Sometimes the mythical love-at-first-sight happens and sometimes love takes time to evolve... First comes fondness for each other and then comes the lightning bolt (chuckle!) that makes you realize that he/she is the one... First of all, is there really an age to fall in love? Is there supposedly a 'right' time? Can we handle what happens after the first three heady months of perfection where warnings go unheeded and those who tell you to come back to earth are just ignored? They don't understand... apparently. You know what you are doing…
And the other person seems so delightful… How can anything go wrong? And slowly skeletons leap out of the closet… and the relationship needs to be worked on but there is still commitment… that comfort level you feel you cannot get anywhere else…
Do we search for someone when we get lonely? Or when we want to use them? Or if we feel we cannot get anyone else whose thoughts and ideas are so alike? Or just to have some fun with?
Maybe there is no such thing as love. At least it’s time to revise its definition.
Why do break-ups happen? Why do divorces occur? The promises made are forgotten… If it is love, are we not supposed to stick through thick and thin? Promises should be made only when they are intended to be kept. Maybe relationships should be encouraged only when both parties are mature enough to handle it…
Its funny how sometimes couples realize in the end that they did not know each other at all in the end… How misunderstandings arise and accusations are hurled… Hurt, betrayal and anger pour out like venom and the good times are forgotten…
There is no such thing as love between two human beings… there is caring, understanding and commitment. Human beings are too selfish to understand what love means… Of course, the only love that can exist is between a mother and her child… that love is unselfish. A mother only gives… without taking. When two people commit to each other, there will always be a conflict between giving and taking. Couples that can have one person giving and the other one taking are rare… and the ones that stick together do have one person giving more…
When a relationship has someone pouring all their energy into making it work, it is not worth it. When the other person is afraid of the obstacles faced, the only way is to exit gracefully mostly for the good of the other person because the expectations have hit rock bottom.
It’s funny how even when the relationship ends you can’t help defending the other person in front of all the ‘I told you so..s’ Is it because we cannot face the fact that we made a mistake? That we made a wrong choice? Mistakes are made to be learnt from.
No one can understand what one goes through after a relationship fails… Let it be a friendship or with a loved one… Sure there will be support… but in the end all the demons have to be dealt with internally…
If only everyone quoted Adele’s lyrics to each other…
Never mind, I'll find someone like you. I wish nothing but the best for you, too. Don't forget me, I beg, I remember you said... Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead. Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead.
Time will heal all. The bitterness will fade away.
But really, I ask, what does love mean to you? Just out of curiosity…
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